tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078840411619735210.post5138108931958697363..comments2016-01-14T21:51:45.918-08:00Comments on Something Out of Nothing: Marriage Equality and Prop 8Krista Bensonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11997208357081091348noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078840411619735210.post-15752446144089044142010-08-06T10:09:31.996-07:002010-08-06T10:09:31.996-07:00Andrew - That was incredibly well-said. And I hear...Andrew - That was incredibly well-said. And I hear you and particularly liked this: "I wish that being married didn't accord me any special privileges. I wish far more that my heterosexuality, masculinity and cisgender status didn't accord me any privileges either. While they do, the *VERY LEAST* - literally - that can be done is to extend those lesser, marital, privileges to those other groups... "Krista Bensonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11997208357081091348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8078840411619735210.post-81129681565727156342010-08-05T02:49:32.378-07:002010-08-05T02:49:32.378-07:00Definitely agreed here. As you know, Holly and I *...Definitely agreed here. As you know, Holly and I *had* to get married in order to be together, and while I'm more devoted to her than I can express, the fact of marriage doesn't change that devotion either way. I could just as easily have just lived with her.<br /><br />But I felt awful when having to sign the marriage license, because I had to sign that I was 'born a man'. Which, firstly, isn't even true (I was born a baby) and secondly made me complicit in a homophobic law. (And, I later realised and felt ashamed for not realising sooner, a transphobic one).<br /><br />And anything other than full equality does this. We have civil partnerships in the UK, which give *exactly* equivalent rights to marriage, but aren't marriage. Which means that if an already-married trans person wants to get their correct gender recognised in law, they have to get divorced first. Preventing some people from marrying is bad enough, but legally *requiring* some people to divorce... words can't describe how horrific that is.<br /><br />I wish that being married didn't accord me any special privileges. I wish far more that my heterosexuality, masculinity and cisgender status didn't accord me any privileges either. While they do, the *VERY LEAST* - literally - that can be done is to extend those lesser, marital, privileges to those other groups...Andrew Hickeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07412263807838661843noreply@blogger.com